Friday, February 12, 2010

Love Actually

When I was a teenager, I was obsessed with Love. I wanted to not only know what it was, but to feel it, read about it, sing about it, talk about it... For an English class we were asked to write journals, some had given topics and some were freewrites. I guarantee every freewrite had me admitting (like it was some secret) that I was a Romantacist and a whole entry devoted to a line in a song "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return". (I feel so sorry for my teacher!) I also engulfed myself in any and all chick flicks: The Notebook, Under the Tuscan Sun, Chocolat, Serendipity, You've Got Mail etc... My favorite songs were painstakingly poetic and I found poems mostly by Shakespere such as "Hear my soul speak. Of the very instant that I saw you, Did my heart fly at your service". I expected love to be in a word... perfect. Every vacation I went on or even being out in public I was always waiting, expecting my beauty to stun my soul mate to the point where he can no longer hold in his love for me, he would approach me and we would live happily ever after. I looked and I looked and through every glance in my direction and every whispered conversation I slowly started to realize life is not like the movies. LOVE is not like the movies.

And I'm okay with that! It was when I finally, finally stopped looking that I found what I believe to be my soul mate. I didn't try to woo him, it just happened through a long series of events (2 months!!). And now I know that love isn't in a card given once a year, a box of chocolates given once a year or anything else only given once a year. Love is like Faith. Love is continuous action. Love is cooking dinner every night, going to work every day, paying the bills every month, watching your favorite TV shows together, having inside jokes, finding out that after 5 years of knowing each other there's still more to learn, growing together... I now treasure songs like "Someone to Fall Back On", "Ordinary People", and Being Alive. Movies that tickle my fancy are Mona Lisa Smile, A Dark Knight, and The Terminal. Quotes of obedience from the scriptures stick out to me more than anything now. I've always said I didn't like Cinderella because she was the only princess that didn't have to work for her man. Her shoe fit the slipper! Happily Ever After! Belle fought off wolves and a mob for her man, Ariel changed into a human and lost her voice for her man... John 14:15: "If ye Love me keep my commandments... He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me" Love is an action word. Just like the plea is made at Christmas to keep the spirit alive within us throughout the year, let me make this plea: Love! Love true and hard throughout the year so that a day does not need to be set aside in order for you to show it.